Exploring my spirituality & preaching the word of ethics-guided liberal politics via writings on feminism, sexuality, spirituality, fandom, and more.
I’ve very upset by the number of people seeking to score points with me by telling me they aren’t feminists, by badmouthing feminism, discarding it as a whole. Did you miss the part where I am still a strong, out spoken feminist? I criticize it because I want it to get better. I don’t think it’s bad. People, especially women, who go out of their way to explain how they aren’t feminists because feminism is bad, right after reading my comic about one problem in feminism. Sure, there are more than just that one problem. There’s more than one problem in anything good that you like anywhere. Stop proudly telling me how you aren’t a feminist. That makes me not like you.
Word. I am so critical on feminism because I want it to fix itself so bad because it’s such a good thing that just needs some help.
"Anti-choice" is just as loaded as "Pro-life", and, well, "pro-choice". Many believe in choices, just not that SPECIFIC choice.
We need to use completely accurate, completely non-loaded words. Those would be “anti-legalized-abortion” and “pro-legalized-abortion” (although, technically, most who are “anti-legal-abortion” are truly anti-abortion, period. So I guess the most accurate are “anti-abortion” and “pro-legalized-abortion”.)
In the end, it mostly comes down to if people think a fetus is a child. Most of the time, those who think it is are the “pro-life”, “anti-choice”, “anti-abortion” folks. (Most of the time.) Those who do not think it is are the “pro-choice”, “pro-legalized-abortion” folks. (Most of the time.) So maybe we should call it “pro-fetus-personhood” and “anti-fetus-personhood”?
Do you know what I REALLY think it boils down to? Those who call it “anti-choice” don’t WANT a completely neutral word. They want to take a jab at those folks and use a loaded word. And shame on them for doing so. Insults are not ok, regardless of who’s using them. Even if you vehemently disagree with folks.
Anonymous, on the need for real communities. (via thesanctuariesdc)
I’ve been reflecting on “religion.” It’s a dirty word to some, a guarantee of salvation to others. Either way, it provokes response.
Few people would likely disagree that religion, specifically “organized religion” in the popular sense, is associated with conservatism, preservation, tradition. There’s not a whole lot that’s hip or even current about it. In fact, the “older” the ritual, the more weight it carries - the more original or authentic it’s believed to be.
And yet, at their inception, so many of the religious traditions were anything but reactionary - they were radical! And dangerously so. Some proposed a new image of God, some a new order of life, some a new future.
I fear we’ve lost that anticipation. That urgency. That hope for something impossibly new.
That’s why we need to reclaim our imagination!
Anonymous, on balancing her love for the religious community she grew up in with the beliefs and practices that no longer work for her. (via thesanctuariesdc)
This is very much how I feel about Catholicism. Only it’s not the specific community grew up with that I love… it’s the practices and the rituals. I’m also fascinated by the complexity of the religion… all the little nitty gritty nuances.
I had a great conversation this afternoon about the purpose of a faith community. I’m often asked: why does it matter?
Today, we talked a lot about practicing. How we have to practice “the language of love.” How we have to learn it and live it.
A spiritual community should offer us a space to do just that: practice with other practitioners. In a safe and sacred environment. Where we’re allowed to mess up, but expected to try.
NOTE! You have the right to disagree with the below. But you DO NOT have the right to verbally harass me over it. Remember, at the end of the keyboard is a person with feelings, and this particular person has a mood/personality disorder that makes them feel things much more strongly than your average person, and they are VERY easily triggered into shame spirals that sometimes end in disaster. Be civil and kind.
I believe it is ok to stop people from harming us. I believe it is ok to tell them to not harm us again. I believe it’s ok to convince them to not harm us again.
I do not believe it’s ok to harm them back. (Taking our rights back or taking back ill gotten rights, privileges, or financial gains does not count as harming them.) I do not believe it’s ok to retaliate or gain revenge.
I do not believe it’s ok to harm individuals in the oppressor class because they are in said class.
I do not believe that it’s ok to hate on people or groups, regardless of if they’re the oppressed or the oppressor class. (That is, white, cis, male, whatever.)
I do not believe that injustice can only be committed against the oppressed class. Injustice can happen to anyone, anywhere, by anyone.
I believe it is ok to be angry about injustice. I believe it’s ok to be angry about oppression. I believe it is ok to express this anger in healthy, constructive ways.
I do not believe it’s ok to verbally abuse people while expressing this anger. (Yes, this includes people in the oppressor class.) I do not believe it’s ok to verbally abuse people to keep them from oppressing us.
I do not believe it’s ok to silence or shame people for expressing their opinion, even if it’s bigoted or offensive. I believe it’s ok to educate a person on why their opinion is offensive or bigoted. But I believe in and encourage thinking and freedom of thought. I believe it’s every person’s inalienable right to decide for themselves what their ethics and morals are. I believe it is every person’s right to free speech. If you inform someone that what they said is offensive because of X, and they choose to say it anyway, that is their choice, even though it may be wrong. Because I believe that thought & language policing is wrong. But I believe that the above paragraph is the solution, or perhaps the compromise that must be made.
I do not believe it is ok to do to them what they did to us. If it was wrong for them to do it to us, it is wrong for us to do the same things. 2 wrongs DO NOT make a right. It just makes more wrong.
I recognize these are very unpopular opinions in certain circles. But I truly do believe that these need to be adopted to save social justice from itself, from perpetuating some of the very evils it deplores. I believe history will frown upon some of the tactics we are using today, and say that we knew better because people did them to us.
Ethics are IMPORTANT. Just as important as politics. MORESO, actually. Ethics are, often times, what guided us to our politics. And ethics are what we need to use to act out our politics.
I do not care if you hate me for these opinions. I genuinely believe I have the ethical upper hand here. However, if you can see some discrepancies or places they cancel each other out, please, feel free to civilly point them out to me, and I’ll sit down and think about them more and try to work them out.