Being good to each other is so important, guys.
"It doesn’t matter who you used to be; what matters is who you decide to be today. You are not your mistakes. You are not your mishaps. You are not your past. You are not your wounds. You can decide differently today and at every moment. Remember that. You are offered a new opportunity with each breath to think, decide, choose and act differently – in a way that supports you in being all that you are capable of being. You are not less than. You are enough."- Brittany Josephina (via ruedamour)
Being a nice person is so fun
Waiter messes something up? You can see the relief on their faces when you don’t scream and swear at them about it
Extra tickets at an arcade/prize place? Watch a little kid’s face light up when you give them a bunch of tickets
There are too many assholes in this world. Be a nice person.
"I remember that I was once walking with an irreligious young man. We came upon a huge mosque, and, looking at it, he said apathetically, ‘Would not a huge factory been in the best interest of this nation instead of such a building?’ I answered him, ‘Woe unto you! The mosque is a factory for souls. People come here with empty minds and leave with their minds working wonders!’"-
That’s fucking awesome, and how I feel about many houses of faith and ethical societies and the like. (Actually, one might be able to say this about BDSM clubs/dungeons as well.)
Melissa Harris-Perry, Black Female Voices: Who Is Listening?
I love this talk; watched and live tweeted it when it happened. Also, Melissa Harris-Perry’s succinct definition of victim blaming is the one that I regularly use. Love how she explains how this impacts the politics of respectability.
I’ve been noticing I’ve been getting a lot of new followers lately. I thought I’d clue you in to all of my different blogs so that you can follow the one(s) you’re most interested in. It might not be this one!
Note that all of my blogs could theoretically contain kink, sex, nudity, and swear words at any given time. (Ok, so it’s EXTREMELY unlikely that the food blog would have anything but swear words, but…) I also do not tag posts for content on any regular basis, so if you’re worried about that sort of thing, you probably should just not follow me.
I mostly reblog things, but sometimes I put up original content. The ones that aren’t my general blog I put more original content up on, but I do have my share of OC on my general blog, mainly because I wrote about things before I created those other blogs, so… If you’re interested in the things I write, I do try to tag all of those #my writings, and when I have something substantial to comment on another post, I try to tag it #adding my take.
C4bl3Fl4m3: my primary/general blog. It’s the catch all one… anything from kink to feederism to geeky things to mental illness to food stuff to spirituality to social justice to transit to just stuff that looks cool. It’s basically all of me. NOTE that some of my other blogs cover some of that stuff, too, but I don’t necessarily x-post stuff from this one to those, or from those to this one. Sometimes I do, and sometimes I don’t, so if you’re interested in the subject, follow both.
ProfanityAndProphecy: I have a passion for activism surrounding the adoption of a set of ethics/morals around interactions within the various social justice communities. This is the blog where I espouse that. There’s a lot of (hopefully, non-preachy!) spirituality, religion, ethical culture, philosophy, ethics, morals, social justice, sex-positive, kink/fetish-positive, and fandom stuff on that blog, esp. posts where one or more of these converge. It also has posts about my own spiritual journey. I’m functionally a spiritual/religious atheist (yes, you read that right), so regardless of where you sit, you hopefully can find something of interest. (Or maybe EVERYONE will be insulted equally! Yay!) If you’re interested in the convergence of Doing Good with our various cultures (SJ, altsex, geek), then this is the blog for you.
HisInSoManyWays: My newest blog! This is the blog I’m chronicling my kink-D/s journey with. I started this because, even though I’ve been in the Scene for 9 years, and been kinky/drawn to power/had fetishes since I was a little kid, I got a boyfriend who is a Dominant, and so there’s a lot more of this stuff actively going on in my life (and in my head) these days. I mainly do this on FetLife, but since I wanted to reblog stuff on Tumblr, often times with my take, and I wanted to have it all in one easy place, I realized I should probably just make a blog for it. I do x-post writings to & from FetLife. This blog includes BDSM, D/s (NOT M/s or O/p), role play (inc. parent-child incest & age play, and Divine/follower role play), and sex. (I usually keep my feedism fetish stuff on my main blog, but if/when they cross over into my relationship, I’ll bring it up here.)
FoodieInterrupted: this is the blog I was doing when I had gallstones and had to follow a low-fat diet for 2 years but still wanted to stay a foodie and eat tasty food. I dropped it ages ago, but if that’s your thing, go for it. (I loved that blog but hardly got any followers.) I actually got the gallstones out in January, so I doubt I’ll start it up again.
HerTheFandom: A blog for Her, the Movie, whose emphasis was on fan creation. I started it up when it was just in select theaters. I dropped it ages ago, but if you’re really into it, let me know, and I’ll let you have the blog.
SpamLoveLetters: I’d love to get people into this. You know how sometimes spam is a love letter? I love the love letters. So I post them w/o the spam links. (If YOU get any spam love letters, feel free to submit them!)
"Develop a healthy relationship with food. If you’re hungry, eat. If you’re full, don’t eat. Eat vegetables to be good to your body, but eat ice cream to be good to your soul.- Tina Tran, Tips to being a happier you (via exoticwild)
Take pictures of yourself frequently. Chronicle your life. Selfies are completely underrated. Even if the pictures are unflattering, keep them anyway. There will always be mountains and cities and buildings, but you will never look the same way as you did in that one moment in time.
Your worth does not depend on how desirable someone finds you. Spend less time in front of the mirror and more time with people who make you feel beautiful.
Close doors. Don’t hold onto things that no longer brings you happiness and do not help you grow as a person. It is okay to walk away from toxic relationships. You are not weak for letting go.
Forgive yourself. We all have something in our pasts that we are ashamed of, but they only weigh us down if we allow them to. Make amends with the old you and work every day to become the person that you’ve always wanted to be."
Before I had tumblr I had no idea there were any sexualities other than heterosexual and homosexual. I never considered gender inequalities still existed.
That doesn’t mean I was purposely trying to discriminate or upset people.
There is a difference between being just ignorant of something and purposefully discriminating.
Give someone a chance to learn and be enlightened before you slam them as rude, horrible people
In this African tribe, when someone does something harmful, they take the person to the center of the village where the whole tribe comes and surrounds them.
For two days, they will say to the man all the good things that he has done.
The tribe believes that each human being comes into the world as a good. Each one of us only desiring safety, love, peace and happiness.
But sometimes, in the pursuit of these things, people make mistakes.
The community sees those mistakes as a cry for help.
They unite then to lift him, to reconnect him with his true nature, to remind him who he really is, until he fully remembers the truth of which he had been temporarily disconnected: “I am good.”
NABAJYOTISAIKIA, is a compliment used in South Africa and means: “I respect you, I cherish you. You matter to me.” In response, people say SHIKOBA, which is: “So, I exist for you.”
and we throw people in jail cells and put them on death row ….
these people are doing it right
This was written by a little 6 year old girl. I babysit her and her two sisters - Rebecca and Mia, and before they go to bed they all sit down and write little prayers to God.
This was the one that Hollie wrote last time, and it absolutely broke my heart. I mean, she’s six years old and she thinks she’s not beautiful. That’s not right. But she is beautiful, absolutely gorgeous. She’s got golden blonde hair, bright green eyes and a smile so beautiful that you melt a little inside when you see it.
When their mum got home, I showed her Hollie’s prayer, and she was devestated. She’s a nurse so she’s seen a lot of horrible things, but I have never seen her like that. And so I had to do something.
If you’re reading this, and if you have the slightest bit of a heart, please reblog this, so that I can prove to Hollie that she is beautiful, and that she is so special, and that God made her exactly the way she is because He knows that He made her perfect. Please give this beautiful little girl the confidence she deserves.
this made me cry. i don’t really care that i’m a strict 1d blog. everyone needs to reblog.
this picture broke my heart. everybody should have this at least once on their blog
I think this breaks the heart of everyone
I don’t believe in God, but you don’t need to believe in God to believe in this little girl.
The first principle of my religion is the inherent worth and dignity of every person. In the kids’ version of the Principles, that translates to “We believe that each and every person is important.”
Hollie, you are important and so very very beautiful, for your insides and your outsides. For how you look and for who you are. You are loved very very much, even by people who have never met you. Never forget that.